I am a mom to two beautiful children.  Neither are ordinary, but both are incredible.

I’m documenting my journey with these gems.  To family members and elders – I apologize in advance for my foul mouth. You’ve been warned.

14 thoughts on “About

  1. I am blessed that you are sharing your journey. This will be a long journey, but by surrounding your family with love will result in a positive ending. God bless you.

  2. Thanks, Jack! The outpouring of support has been incredible. I feel so lucky to be surrounded by such wonderful family and friends.

  3. Thank you so much for your writing about trans children. We are just starting out and your honest and authentic sharing is a gift to all parents. Keep it up!

  4. Thanks so for much for your comment. It makes me happy to know that my blog is helpful and/or validating for parents of trans kids. Let me know if there’s a topic you wish I’d write about. Best of luck to you and your family.

  5. Read your Huffpo post. Thanks for doing such an amazing job of cluing people into the realities of being trans, or raising a trans kid. Excellent job!

  6. Read your Huffpo post. Thanks for doing such an amazing job of cluing people into the realities of being trans, or raising a trans kid. Excellent job!

  7. Your blog is captivating and warms my heart. I am writing a speech for a Communications class and my topic is the hidden cost of transgender discrimination/bullying, such as the eventual need for therapy, PTSD, substance abuse, medical issues, loss of productivity.
    In your case you are doing everything right: (my paper is aimed at the child without such strong and loving support) and how it costs society so much later on in life. Any comments from you would be appreciated.

  8. Hi Greg. Thanks for reading. I’m glad to hear you’re covering such an important topic. That being said, your specific topic is a very complex issue. The trans community is vulnerable in ways I believe other marginalized groups are not. I’m not sure if you’ve read my entry entitled HB2001 (or something similar) but I quoted a statistic that pretty much sums up my thoughts on this issue.
    “Severely disabled children, autistic children, schizophrenic children, criminal children, many of these are at greater risk of death than a conventionally healthy child, but parents of trans kids are uniquely poised between two equally terrifying possibilities; if the child is not able to transition, he or she may commit suicide; if the child transitions, he or she may be killed for having done so.” -Andrew Solomon, Far From The Tree. So, the moral cost of discrimination and bullying is astronomical, in my opinion. I imagine the financial burden is equally high. Best of luck with your paper, and major kudos for helping to educate the masses. :0)

  9. Michelle, thank you so much! You have brought tears to my eyes. What I would have done to have a mom like you. As it was, with the parents I had, it might (literally) have cost me my life if they’d found out I was trans. People don’t understand the pain of being trans while not being allowed to be trans. How people think we would actually choose something like that is beyond me. And how they think we’ll stop being trans if we’re not encouraged to be trans is beyond me. I was never encouraged to be trans–but I was trans nonetheless and all it did was make me deeply unhappy. These days I’m living my life as myself, and the difference is unimaginable to those who haven’t been there. Bless you for supporting your child! You are a saint!

  10. Hello Annabelle. Thanks for your comment. The more I read about trans youth the more I realize me and my husband made the right decision for my daughter. You bring up an important point – the potential dangers of coming out, even to parents (which is hard for my brain to process). I’m happy that you came out on the other side okay. I appreciate your insight, and want to acknowledge and applaud your courage. Best wishes!!

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